Gifting and The 5 Love Languages 

NiLu Contributer

It takes a lot of effort to maintain a relationship — whether with friends, family, or a partner. And regardless of tangible or intangible gestures, sometimes it can feel like you’re missing the mark. This is especially true when it comes to giving gifts.

The good news is that there’s a way to improve your gift-giving skills and adapt to all of the loved ones in your life. The trick? Embracing the magic of the 5 Love Languages — and then applying the process to the people in your life.

The good news is that there’s a way to improve your gift-giving skills and adapt to all of the loved ones in your life. The There are 5 Love Languages, and the concept was developed by Gary Chapman (who aptly named his book The 5 Love Languages). Determining your love language — as well as the love languages of the people in your life — is pivotal for maintaining healthy relationships. The concept is that we all love giving and receiving love in different ways, and those ways can be summed up by distinct categories.? Embracing the magic of the 5 Love Languages — and then applying the process to the people in your life.

The 5 Love Languages are as follows: 

    Acts of Service - Want to show someone with an Acts of Service Love Language that you care? Do something nice for them. Fill up your partner’s gas tank. Make dinner for a friend. Essentially, make the effort to go above and beyond to take some of the load off of their shoulders.

    Quality Time - Spending time devoted to someone is important to people who have Quality Time as their primary love language. Movie nights, dinner plans, or just going on walks and catching up about life are great ways to spend quality time.

    Physical Touch - Touching — in any way, not purely sexually — is important to people with this love language. Hugs, holding hands, and cuddling are awesome examples of physical touch.

    Gifts - Gifts show someone with this Love Language that you treasure them by giving gifts, whether big or small. Anything from a pint of their favorite ice cream to an expensive splurge will be appreciated.

    Words of Affirmation - People whose primary Love Language is Words of Affirmation feel loved, valued, and appreciated when others build them up. Actively telling them that you care and that they are special will fill their “love tank.”I am lucky enough to have a beautiful studio in the heart of Edinburgh. My studio is in a large building with over 50 artists. This has been a real advantage to my practice as I work in an enriching environment with painters, weavers, jewellers, printmakers as well as other ceramicists. This has fed my creativity and given me the confidence to incorporate other disciplines like printmaking and sculpture into my work. I dont do detailed drawings, preferring to scribble initial ideas into my sketchbook but finalising my designs in clay. Im not a morning person and love nothing better than settling down in my studio, with Radio 4 playing in the background, and working late into the evening

    “Okay okay, I get it. But how does this affect my ability to give a great gift?”

    Although only one Love Language involves the direct act of giving gifts, knowing someone’s Love Language allows you to get them better gifts.

    These gifts don’t necessarily even have to cost a lot of money. If someone’s gift is Physical Touch, you can gift them a nice candle and a coupon for an IOU massage. If their love language is Words of Affirmation, write them a love letter — or if it’s a friend, a card about how much you appreciate them — along with a little trinket that you think they’d like. Quality Time? Carve out a block of your schedule to hang out. Gifts? Surprise them with something you know they’ll love. Acts of Service? Time to make dinner! There are endless ways to give gifts to the people in your life without making a huge dent in your wallet.

    By adhering to the ideals of the 5 Love Languages, you can better attend to the needs of the people you care about. If all else fails, think about yourself and your Love Language — and establish in your mind the kind of gift you’d like to receive. A gift that caters to your Love Language, right? Don’t answer that. The answer is yes.

    Go forth and prosper with your gift giving!

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